Why sexologists don’t talk to you about their sex lives

This story originally appeared on September 4, 2025 in URBANIA, an online magazine based in Quebec focused on pop culture and society.

The author is a sexologist. For even more informed advice, visit her Instagram account and her blog, La Tête dans le cul.

Recently, the sexology duo of the moment, Apéro Sexo, announced their separation, blaming it on two different visions of how sexological knowledge should be passed on. Since Quebec’s sexology world is very small, it didn’t take much for this to spark reactions from many people, myself included.

First, I want to say that I appreciate the duo’s work and that I’ve always wondered how they managed to separate their work in sex education from their private lives. For sexologists like me, talking about ourselves is an extremely delicate subject. And yet, the idea of drawing on personal anecdotes and experiential knowledge to discuss sexology is brilliant. But it’s also very slippery terrain.